Inclusive Pronoun Rules – Write What Matters (2024)

By Erin Kelly, Sara Humphreys, Natalie Boldt, and Nancy Ami

Rules to consider are those that vary not just based on the particular group to whom you are writing, but also those that are open to debate. A good example of this sort of rule is the case of what is now called “singular they.”

If you were learning English grammar in the eighteenth or nineteenth centuries (the 1700s or the 1800s), you would have been taught that apronounmust agree with its antecedent. In plain English: apronounis a word that stands in for anounit needs to match that noun in some important ways. This rule leads to the following sorts of examples:

  • CORRECT: Theboxis heavy, soitwill break the table. (“It” agrees with “box” in that it is singular in numberthere is ONE boxand it stands in for things, like boxes but not people.)
  • CORRECT:Studentsmust bringtheirbooks to class. (“Their” agrees with “students” in that there is more than one student and they/their/them stands in for people.)
  • CORRECT:Thomasdoesn’t like to read;heprefers to play cricket. (“He” agrees with “Thomas” in that it is singular in number and gender. Thomas is traditionally a male name, and he is a pronoun for male people.)

So far, so good. But what if you want to refer to one person in a group that includes both men and women and some non-binary people?

According to eighteenth- and nineteenth-century rules, you would be given the following examples:

  • ERROR:Eachwritermust bring to the act of writing poetrytheirwit and imagination.
  • CORRECT:Eachwritermust bring to the act of writing poetryhiswit and imagination.
  • ERROR:Eachwritermust bring to the act of writing poetryherwit and imagination.

The logic underpinning these examples is that “each writer” is singular (one writer), so “their” is a mistake because it doesn’t agree in number. But what’s wrong with “her”? After all, there were male and female poets in the 1600s and 1700s. Had you asked this question, a teacher might have patiently explained to you that themale singular pronoun(he/his) is universalit can stand in for a singular male person (like Thomas) or for a generic, neutral human being who might happen to be male or female. Thefemale singular pronouncan’t do the same thing. Popular thinking at the time was that gender doesn’t matter when it comes topronounsin the same way it does in relation to people. “He” can stand in for any person.

By the twentieth century, feminists had persuaded a lot of people that it is problematic to see themale pronounas “universal.” If it’s okay to have a singular pronoun stand in for any example of a person, some asked, why does it need to always and only be the male pronoun? Doesn’t this sort of language suggest to women that they don’t really count (much in the same way that terms like “fireman” or “chairman” imply that the jobs we now more commonly refer to as “firefighter” or “chair” are only for men)? In their efforts to create moregender inclusive(sometimes also calledgender neutral) language, they offered the following alternatives:

  • CORRECT: Each writer must bring to the act of writing poetryhis or herwit and imagination. (Adding “or her” makes the sentence more gender inclusive, and both “his” and “her” are singular, just like “Each writer.”)
  • CORRECT: Each writer must bring to the act of writing poetryhis/herwit and imagination. (The slash in “his/her” here stands in for “or” and thus conveys the same meaning as the previous examplebut in a more concise way.)
  • CORRECT: Each writer must bring to the act of writing poetryher/hiswit and imagination. (The slash in “her/his” here stands in for “or” and has the same significance as in the previous examplebut putting “her” first implies that the male pronoun doesn’t always need to take precedence, much less be seen as universal.)
  • CORRECT: Each writer must bring to the act of writing poetryherwit and imagination. (Here the pronoun matches the referent in number; both are singular. And if the “gender” of a pronoun doesn’t really matter, then why not use “her”?)
  • CORRECT:All writersmust bring to the act of writing poetrytheirwit and imagination. (An easy easy way to make English sentences more gender inclusive is to revise to make the nouns being referred to pluralthat way, one can use “they/their”: a pronoun that is not only plural but also doesn’t indicate gender. A group of men, a group of women, or a group of men and women can all be referred to as “they.”)

For most readers, gender-biased language (such as referring to all people as “he”) seems odd, maybe even wrong. But there may still be some debates about which of the “correct” options above is bestsome find“his or her” unnecessarily wordy while others find“his/her” awkward.

And in the past twenty years or so, trulygender-neutralsingular pronouns have been suggested as a way of allowing writers and speakers to refer to an individual person whose gender is not known or who identifies as non-binary. You might see or hear the following:

  • Ze, xe, se, ey, vey, ver, tey, e, ou (instead of he or she)
  • Zim, xem, sie, em, ver, ter, eir, hir (instead of him or her)[1]

The development that seems most likely to stick is the use of theexisting pronoun “they”as agender-neutral singular. This change means seeing the following examples as correct:

  • CORRECT:Each writermust bring to the act of writing poetrytheirwit and imagination.
  • CORRECT: Whena studentwrites a successful essay, the instructor will askthemto submit this piece of work for the annual writing award.
  • CORRECT:A scientistcan get into trouble by being too sure of whattheycan do alone.
  • CORRECT: My friendBlaketakestheirschoolwork very seriously.

In all of these cases, thepronoun“they” (or variations on it like “their” and “them”) refers back to a person (singular) whose gender is unknown and/or to a person who identifies as non-binary. Depending on your reading experiences, these sentences might seem unremarkable, strange, or even examples of grammatical errors.

Butsingular theyis not only becoming more widely accepted but also allowed (and increasingly endorsed) by some important style guides for academic and journalistic writing such asAPA,AP, andMLA.[2]A further example is that mostuniversity style guides[3](for writing internal memos, marketing materials and so on) follow inclusive grammar protocols. Of course, you need to make your decisions based on the rhetorical situation and context. This is where your rhetorical skills come into play along with your knowledge of grammar.

  1. If you want to see more options and learn more about the history, dating back at least to the nineteenth century, to create a widely accepted gender-neutral singular pronoun in English, read Dennis E. Barron’s article “The Epicene Pronoun: The Word that Failed” inAmerican Speech56, no. 2 (1981): 83-97, DOI: 10.2307/455007 or his more recent article inThe Globe and Mail: “The Canadian Politicsand Historyof ‘He,’ ‘She’ and ‘They,’” February 21, 2020,https://www.theglobeandmail.com/opinion/article-the-canadian-politics-and-history-of-he-she-and-they/.
  2. See, for example, the following statements issued by these organisations: “Singular They,” APA Style, American Psychological Association, accessed September 14, 2020,https://apastyle.apa.org/style-grammar-guidelines/grammar/singular-they; Karen Hare, “AP Style Change: Singular They is Acceptable in ‘Limited Cases’,”Poynter, March 24, 2017,https://www.poynter.org/reporting-editing/2017/ap-style-change-singular-they-is-acceptable-in-limited-cases/; “How Do I Use Singular They?” MLA Style Center, Modern Language Association, March 4, 2020,https://style.mla.org/using-singular-they/.
  3. By way of example, check out the University of Victoria’s “Editorial Style Guide”:https://www.uvic.ca/communicationsmarketing/assets/docs/style-guide-web.pdf

This chapter is adapted from Why Write? A Guide for Students in Canada by Erin Kelly, Sara Humphreys, Natalie Boldt, and Nancy Ami andlicensed under aCreative Commons Attribution 4.0 International License, except where otherwise noted.

Inclusive Pronoun Rules – Write What Matters (2024)

FAQs

What is an example of an inclusive pronoun? ›

- she/her/hers (for someone who might identify as female), - they/them/their (for someone who might not identify strictly as male or female, these pronouns are considered 'gender neutral'; also used when referring to multiple people).

How do you teach pronouns in an inclusive way? ›

In order to teach pronouns in an inclusive way we need to incorporate singular they/them and make space for other sets of pronouns beyond the binary he/him and she/her. We, of course, continue to teach plural they too. They/them pronouns can be used in the following ways, and more: To refer to more than one person.

What is the inclusive pronoun technique? ›

(An easy easy way to make English sentences more gender inclusive is to revise to make the nouns being referred to plural—that way, one can use “they/their”: a pronoun that is not only plural but also doesn't indicate gender.

What pronouns do nonbinary people use? ›

Non-gendered or nonbinary pronouns are not gender specific and are most often used by people who identify outside of a gender binary. The most common set of nonbinary pronouns is they/them/their used in the singular (e.g., Jadzia identifies as genderqueer; they do not see themselves as either a woman or a man).

What is the first-person inclusive pronoun? ›

In linguistics, clusivity is a grammatical distinction between inclusive and exclusive first-person pronouns and verbal morphology, also called inclusive "we" and exclusive "we".

Is you an inclusive pronoun? ›

The use of the second person pronoun 'you' is inclusive and personal, and gives the effect that the writer is speaking directly to you, not to just anybody who will listen.

Why do writers use inclusive pronouns? ›

Inclusive language is how authors show that they recognise their readers, whoever they are, and that they are welcome. Many people who belong to marginalised communities yearn to see and read about well-rounded, authentic, and diverse characters who are empowered.

Why are inclusive pronouns important? ›

To create and maintain an inclusive environment, it's important that we don't make assumptions about a person's pronouns. Instead, you can address people by their names or use their correct pronouns if you know them. When someone tells you their pronouns, use them.

How do inclusive pronouns affect the audience? ›

It avoids stereotypes, biases, and assumptions that might exclude or offend someone based on their identity, background, or experience. Inclusive language can help you connect with your audience, build trust, and enhance your credibility as a speaker.

How do I know if I'm non-binary? ›

You may be nonbinary if you don't feel that your gender is either masculine or feminine, or if you don't identify with the gender you've been assigned at birth. Many nonbinary people reject gender roles and the characteristics attached to them.

What are the four gender pronouns? ›

Everyone has the right to use the gender pronouns that match their personal identity. These pronouns may or may not match their gender expression (how the person dresses, behaves, or looks). What are some commonly used gender pronouns? She, her, and hers and he, him, and his are the most commonly used pronouns.

What is an example of a non-binary person? ›

Someone who is non-binary does not identify as exclusively male or female. They may identify as both, neither, or some combination of the two. For example, someone who identifies as non-binary may feel more masculine on some days and more feminine on other days.

What are exclusive pronouns examples? ›

For example, "Don't call us; we'll call you." In contrast to inclusive we, exclusive "we" does not include the audience or the reader. Often (but not always), exclusive we occurs when the first-person plural is used in the company of a second-person pronoun (you, yours, yourself, yourselves).

What are inclusive pronouns in the workplace? ›

In some cases, these individuals may use gender-neutral or gender-inclusive pronouns, such as “they,” “them,” and many others (see below for additional examples). Using a person's correct pronouns provides gender affirmation, signals mutual respect, and creates a more welcoming and tolerant environment.

What is the 5 example of pronoun? ›

Common pronouns are he, she, you, me, I, we, us, this, them, that. A pronoun can act as a subject, direct object, indirect object, object of the preposition, and more and takes the place of any person, place, animal or thing.

What is an example of an inclusive word? ›

Inclusive ways to address a group include “folks,” “people,” “you all, “y'all,” and “team.” Recognize the impact of mental health language: “Bipolar,” “PTSD,” “OCD,” and “ADD” are real mental health diagnoses that people possess.

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