FAQ — Snuggle with Sam (2024)

What makes your cuddling "professional"?

Cuddling is exactly that: cuddling. Much like life coaching, professional cuddling and cuddle therapy have certifications and training programs people can take to gain skills to cuddle people with genuine care yet with the emotional skills to navigate the complexities that come up while cuddling.

Cuddling, like any kind of interaction with other people, requires consent and body autonomy on both sides. Professionals and cuddle therapists have spent time learning how to best navigate consent in ways that support you to have healthier interactions with people as a whole, not just in cuddle sessions.

We do a lot of work to make sure being physically close is not only safe for you, but genuinely something that's helpful for you. The last thing we want to do is take advantage of people that are hurting.0

Think of it this way: professional cuddling is like having a surrogate, emotionally healthy, cuddly friend that can support you. Wtih me, you're able to experience what a healthy friendship or relationship dynamic can be like so you can recreate that in your own life.

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What happens during a session?

Sessions vary depending on the reason you're coming in.

Our first session starts with meeting in a public space for the first half hour before spending the rest of our session in a private cuddle space (+90 minutes if you're coming to my office in Woburn, +3.5 hours if I'm traveling to you). This helps me get to know you and your needs better, and I take this time to assess how you're coming into these sessions, if you have specific goals in mind (some people do, some don't; either is okay), and how to best approach a session with you.

For all clients, you're NEVER expected to endure touch you don't want. In fact, for some touch-adverse clients trying to explore touch at their own pace, we may not touch at all in our first session. That's normal!

As far as how we'll cuddle? That's up to you to decide and ask for. I may be an expert at cuddling, but I'm not an expert on you and what you want. I may offer ideas or some questions to help you come up with how you might want to cuddle, but you don't have to come up with something immediately just so we can "get the show on the road," so to speak. Take as much time as you need to figure out what you want to do, and then ask for it.

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Who do you work with?

Since starting in 2015, I 've worked with people 18+ (any younger people cannot sign their own medical papers, so I'm not able to work with you at this time. Sorry!). I've worked well with people running companies, people starting their careers, and various people different work backgrounds in between. I've worked with people of various religious or spiritual belief systems as well from Orthodox Jews to Satanists.

I do my best to be queer-friendly, trans-friendly, non-monogamous-friendly, ESL-friendly and neurodiverse-friendly by continually educating myself. I'm increasingly aware of my privilege as an educated, able-bodied white woman in Massachusetts. I have worked with people that are: Indian, Pakistani, Palestinian, Israeli, African, Mexican, Brazilian, Chinese, Vietnamese, Korean, Japanese, and various other demographics. I do my best to educate myself on the cultural challenges people might be experiencing due to their demographics, and I try to tailor sessions for their needs.

I do my best to be clear on what accessibility limits there are for my incall practice and what I feel capable of doing in order to accommodate your needs. If you have specific needs, please ask!

This is all to say: I don't disqualify based on background. In fact, if you're reading this and are wondering if you'd be too awkward for me, I'm an ex engineer by training (and a proud graduate of Worcester Polytechnic Institute). Awkward is me and my best friend from college over ten years ago, not a reason you can't come see me.

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Do you work with women?

Yes! I don't discriminate, especially not on gender. Women and other femme peoples are worthy of safe, comfortable connection with touch.

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I'm not very attractive. Is that okay?

First, I'm willing to bet that you're more good-looking than you think.

Second, I don't care what you look like. Some clients like sending me a picture of themselves before a session so I know who to look for when they arrive for their session, but that's not a requirement.

Quite frankly, your hygiene is more important to me than how good-looking you are.

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My hygiene? What do you expect for that?

I ask that all my clients try to bathe and brush their teeth within 12 hours of their session time with me, to not smoke within 1-2 hours of seeing me, and to wear clean clothing for our session. Also please refrain from smoking and drinking at least one hour from our session time.

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I'm an older guy. Is that a problem?

Not at all! I've done sessions with people that were well into their golden years. Your age doesn't disqualify you from cuddling-- in fact, I think it's even MORE important for you!

That said, accessibility needs due to your age (i.e can't walk up stairs, skin sensitivities, arthritis, etc.) is more important to me so I can try to accommodate you. Please do share those so I can see how I can better make your session more worry-free and safe for you.

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What do I wear?

You just need to wear a top and pants. Shorts, sweatpants, leggings, pajamas, t-shirts, dress shirts, jeans... I want you to be comfortable with what your choice of clothing is, but bare minimum is a tank top and gym shorts.

Men and masc folk, please note: boxer briefs are not pants. If you dress down to a t shirt and boxer briefs, I will ask you put your pants back on for the session.

Think of it this way: would you walk outside, grab the paper, and talk to your neighbor in what you want to wear for 30 minutes? If you or your neighbor would be uncomfortable looking at you in what you're wearing in that scenario, it's not appropriate for sessions.

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What will you wear?

My own clothing will have the same requirements as you: a top and pants of some sort. This could be yoga pants, sweatpants, tank top, t shirt, etc.

I do wear undergarments under these clothes and this is a non-negotiable for me.

Can I pay with cash?

When you sign up for your first session you will be prompted to put a card on file. You can do this without paying with the card and then choose to pay in cash at your session.

If saving a card on file is not an option for you for any reason, you can also pay in full via Venmo or simply schedule a time to come to my office and drop cash off at least one day before our session. Note that you will not beput on the schedule until this is complete and you risk other people taking the time you want scheduled in the meantime.

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What do you need my credit card and ID for?

Your card is saved to charge in the event of a no-show (which you would be charged the full amount of the session) or for a cancellation less than 12 hours before the session (which are charged 50% of the session cost.) I'm not able to use the card you save on file otherwise as it's protected with bank-level encryption through Square Inc. and the full account number is not revealed to me.

I also need to see your ID to confirm you're over 18 and to verify that the credit card is indeed yours. If a family member is paying for your session, I need written consent from them confirming that they authorize this charge.

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What's okay and not okay in a session?

Here's a quick summary, but it's not meant to be an exhaustive list:

Yes to wearing a shirt and bottoms

No to wearing only boxer shorts (think of pants you’d wear outside)

Yes to shoulder massages

No touching under clothes

Yes it's okay if you get aroused

No to escalating a session sexually if you get aroused

Yes to touching faces (just ask first)

No to kissing

Yes to touching the stomacharea, but

No to erogenous zones (genitals, breasts, buttocks)

If you have other questions, please ask!

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When are you available?

My general availability (updated 3/7/24) is:

Mondays 10am-9pmTuesdays 1pm-9pmWednesdays 1pm-6pmThursdays 1pm-9pmFridays 1pm-5:30pmNo Saturdays1st Sunday of the month 11am-9pm

Custom sessions (such as: travel with you sessions, all day sessions, etc.) are scheduled on a case-by-case basis at my discretion with different availability.

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Can I see you today?

Current clients are able to book me as early as 12 hours in advance. That said, availaiblity tends to be limited the day of. New clients are also able to book 12 hours in advance.

Regardless,I recommend you take the first step so that when you know you're ready and have time to come in, you can take the first step quickly because you watched the orientation video and followe the steps to book me.

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You said you were available a certain time and when I tried to book you later, it's not available anymore. What gives?

My demand varies often. Sometimes I'll have weeks where I only see some of my regular clients and other weeks where I'll have several people trying to book me on the same day. I've had weeks where all of my clients have been scheduled and solidly blocked out my calendar for more than two weeks.

I have also had indecisive clients decide a time slot works for them just after someone else claimed the time slot. This often happens for people looking for same day or next day appointments. In general, the more notice, the better.

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How long is a session?

First time clients must do either a 2-hour session in my cuddle room/office in Woburn OR a 4-hour session in a location of their choice, up to an hour from Woburn. After that, sessions can be any length from 1 hour to 4 hours long, and we would decide together what might work best for you.

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Can I do a longer session?

For your first session we start with 2- hour in my office or 4-hour at your location. At this time the longest session I can accomodate is a 4 hour session.

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Can I do a session less than an hour long?

If you can only do, say, a 45 minute session, you can book that but you will be charged for the full one hour. One hour is the minimum billing I do.

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Can I do an overnight session with you?

While some clients have worked with professional cuddlers and cuddle therapists that do overnights before, I no longer do overnight sessions with clients. When traveling together, I ask to have my own bed or room and to not be touched at all while asleep.

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What's the longest session you've ever done?

I've done a week traveling with a client that was part cuddling, part companionship, and part mental health support overall. For those that want a travel companion, we can talk about what that might look like. Expect to pay at least $5k minimum for these kinds of experiences.

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Where do you host?

My cuddle sessions are in my dedicated cuddle room in an office building in Woburn MA (near the Stop and Shop). I'm on the fifth floor (which is easily accessible by elevator), and I require all guests wait in the reception area to meet me before sessions. For after business hours (5pm-), I will need to meet you on the bottom floor so you may access the buidlling with me.

While this might sound overly formal, I assure you that my cuddle room is all but formal. I have a queen sized daybed set up and non-florescent lighting in the room as well as cozy decorations you would expect from a professional cuddler.

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Can you come to me?

I can! I require a 4-hour session for our first session and minimum 3 hour sessions thereafter. I'll travel up to one hour away from Woburn. Any further than that and you'll have to come to me.

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Can you travel with me and give me cuddling while we're traveling for a few days?

Possibly! I've done this before.

I'm open to being your cuddler for gaming tournaments (chess, poker, MTG, etc.), business travel, conferences, trips for funeral preparations, just to have someone to explore a city with you, and more. I have been someone's pre-match cuddler before for a multi-day chess tournament before.

We can talk about what you think you would want during that time while traveling (just a couple cuddle hours a day versus overnights every night) and what we would be doing when not cuddling so I can determine a fair fee.

Also note: all my travel expenses must be covered by you (airfare, hotel costs, food and drink, etc.) and I ask for a minimum of three week's notice. Payment for 1/2 the total cost plus flight and hotel is due 2 1/2 weeks prior to start of travel and full payment is due 1 week prior to start of travel. Cancellation refund is only available for up to 5 days prior to travelling and not valid on costs incurred for travel.

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Can you tell me when you're in my area?

I can! I do need to know where you are, though. Look on my orientation page for a link to people that don't live near me.

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I live far away but I want a session with you. How can I see you?

There's a few options!

You can make a trip out to see me.
If you're less than a one hour drive, see "Can you come to me?"
If you're willing to have me fly or take a train to you, you can pay:

my hourly rate for travelling to you from each hour upon arriving at Boston Logan to finishing our session.

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I have health issues, like mental or physical limitations?

Please tell me ASAP! I'd love to be able to accommodate your needs as best I can, and the more I know about you ahead of time the better equipped I will be.

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I'm sorry, for privacy and security reasons I can't work with you if you're not willing or able to give me your contact information.

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I'm not comfortable and want to stop?

Can I trust that you will say that you are? If so, when you say that you're not comfortable, we can reset our session, stop cuddling if we need to, and talk about it. This is your session, and I want to know when you're uncomfortable so we can work on that.

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I want to extend our session while I'm there?

You can ask! I can't always, depending on my schedule or the timing of the session, but I'm happy to work with your session length needs as much as possible. This is also why having a card on file is to your benefit: instead of stopping the session to pull out your wallet, we can simply change our end time and I'll charge the card for the additional time after the session.

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I need to cancel?

Please let me know by calling, text and/or email at least 12 hours before the session. You can also cancel the session in the link provided in your confirmation email. Otherwise, I reserve the right to a cancellation fee worth 50% of the session cost.

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I run into you in public outside of a session?

If you initiate contact, I'll greet you. I won't out you as a client in company (unless you out yourself). I always look to you for direction on this as I value my client's privacy and needs for discretion.

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I don't want my spouse to find out I'm seeing you?

I don't disclose your information if you've seen me to anyone you haven't given me express permission to, so if they call I can't provide them with any information.

I don't judge you for coming to see me without telling them and that is not a prerequisite to seeing me. That said, I've found that couples that are willing to tell their spouses tend to see great results both in my sessions and in their marriage

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I want you to wear something for my session?

As noted earlier, I don't take clothing requests for my own comfort. I pick the clothing I wear and you pick the clothing you wear, and I only ask that you follow my minimum clothing requirements. I'll do the same.

I find that when we're both comfortable with our own bodies, we can be comfortable with each other's bodies for a cuddle session.

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I get aroused while we're cuddling?

The short answer: nothing happens if that happens, and nothing changes unless you need to step away or break contact somehow.

Getting aroused while cuddling is normal. I don't get upset or offended by noticing, although if you're a man/masc person with an erection I might adjust positions so that I'm not in contact with it.

Like all feelings—happy, sad, angry, nervous—arousal is a feeling that is welcome in our sessions. This is a place where suppressing how you feel isn't always helpful, but at least acknowledging yourself that the feeling is present and intentionally deciding you're not going to escalate cuddling into something else has been really helpful for many of my clients.

We can continue cuddling as we were beforehand if you feel you can do so, and I'm open to less contact overall if that's what you need for your arousal to dissipate.

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I'm "generous" if you offer me more than cuddling?

My work is adjacent to sex work, but the boundaries for my work are for the purpose of maintaining a therapeutic session and not a sexual one.

I suggest one of two things if you thought this might be okay to ask me for:

Consider what it is you're hoping to get out of having more than cuddling-- closeness? More connection? Skin contact?-- And I ask you to consider if that can get met through a cuddling session as I've described it.
If you really think what you need is more than cuddling, look for a sex worker. Especially since you're willing to pay more than I charge for it, many kind and helpful sex workers would be happy to help you. I cannot recommend any or point you where to go due to criminalization laws.

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You say no to something I ask for and really want?

No doesn't mean I hate you or that you're terrible. It just means no, I don't want that and am not okay with that. Once I say this, it's now on you to decide if you can accept my no. If not, then we probably need to stop cuddling together.

One big part of my professional cuddling practice is having a space where you can safely hear no and be okay with it.

That said, I've noticed many people have feelings of shame and/or anger come up after I say no to something they want. I make a point to not make anyone "wrong" when I say no, but many people have a sensitivity to rejection (some even Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria, a very real condition!). If this happens in our session, I might provide guidance around what you might be making it out to mean and insight around what my thought process so we have full transparency as it relates to saying no.

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